Common Reasons Why People Don't Homeschool Their Own Children
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Homeschooling - complete the following - I'd never homeschool my own children because...
I went to a popular question and answer site and asked people to complete the sentence, “I'd never homeschool my own children because...” This article is a response to some of the answers on that site, as well as some common objections to homeschooling.
What about socialization?
Start talking to people who don’t know anything about homeschooling and the first thing they mention is socialization. But my memory from school is repeatedly being told to be quiet. I can’t remember the number of times I heard the phrase, “You’re not here to socialize.”
Why do people think homeschoolers stay home with mom all day every day? There are many activities after school and at weekends that they can join in with as well as an increasing number during the day that are organized for homeschoolers. Actually, I find children in school anti-social with the huge amount of homework they have to do. My homeschool children are frequently finished with their schoolwork by mid-afternoon, but they have to wait until their in-school friends are ready before they can play.
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I think we as a society think that children need to be with children exactly their own age. I have 4 children and they primarily socialized with each other. Many homeschoolers are able to converse as easily with adults and children of all ages, instead of just the children born in the same school year.
There is a saying, “To train a puppy put it with an adult dog, don’t put it with 30 other puppies.” Children learn from who they are with and most of the time spend in school is spent with children their own age and not with adults. With a few children in a family, children will learn more from mom than immature children.
In order for them to cope in the work place as an adult, they need to cope as a child in the school, even if it is torture.
I disagree. In order for them to cope in the workplace they need to have good social skills to cope. Homeschooling builds a good self image because it is an environment of thriving and succeeding.
Because I work full time
Homeschooling is a huge sacrifice financially. Often with children in school both parents can work, but homeschooling requires that one parent stay home. I have known homeschool families where both parents work, maybe mom works part time, but it is not an easy situation. There are, however, some homeschool families who run a home based business or where mom works at home, selling on eBay or writing online. Then the hours are flexible, but it’s not possible for mom and dad to both have full time jobs and still homeschool.
I can’t help my child with math, or chemistry, or something else
No parent can teach all subjects all the way through to high school. The method of teaching at home is different from the method of teaching in school. In school, the teacher has the knowledge and passes it to the student. With homeschooling you teach the child to learn for himself. There are many aids to this and there are many curricula that use DVDs or the computer so the child can be self-taught.
Personally I felt I could assist with all subjects except chemistry, so I got my son a tutor for the year he took chemistry. Tutors are expensive, but compared to private school, if you get a tutor for one subject for one year it is much less expensive.
I need my peace
Homeschooling is demanding and one of the challenges is being with children all day. I can understand stay at home moms who want their alone time during the day. Certainly when homeschooling, alone time is rare. I think it must be difficult for the mom who is an introvert.
Is school a great place to be?
I’m not surprised, but no one ever says, “I think school is a great place to be”. I find it sad that people have reasons why they don’t homeschool, but few people think the best place for children is in school. Many people I meet say, “I wish I could homeschool,” and cite one of the reasons above why they don’t.
My feeling is that anyone who regularly helps their children with schoolwork has the ability to homeschool, they just need the desire to homeschool.
Homeschooling is a wonderful experience for both the parent and the child and one that will bond you together and give you many memories for years to come. I wonder why more people don’t homeschool.
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Excellent hub. I get so sick of hearing "What about socialization skills" when I tell someone I homeschool my kids. Grrrrrr. Do we really want our kids learning "socialization skills" in a public school where children are fighting and bringing knives and guns to school . . .Not this mom! My children are going to do better than most in the work place because they have manners and so many young adults don't even know what that is anymore.
Anyway, I will stop before I get rolling even more! lol This is a great hub, thanks for publishing it!
My son will be five in July and we have known that we would homeschool since he was born (even before that really). I do think there are challenges involved and there are days that the idea of them being gone all is really appealing. However, I know that homeschooling will allow me to meet my child's needs academically in a way that teachers can't because of the size of the class. I also know that they (we have a daughter now) will be challenged and encouraged. Our almost five year old is learning to read and write already. While lessons aren't easy (we only do a short 20-30 minutes a day) they are important and valuable to our time as well.
Very intersting Hub! I was a public school teacher for thirteen years, and while I am a fan of it, I do realize that some children do better in a different environment. For me, I could never homeschool my kids, as it would drive me insane! I love our time together on the weekend and after school (we are not into too many activities) to teach them non-academic things, like baking and gardening. Nice work!
homeschoolmom 13 months ago
I would like to add our experience. I started homeschooling out of desperation. My son was struggling in public school, they refused to help him and there was no other option in our area, but to homeschool. We homeschooled for five years, my older son from 2nd to 7th grade, and my younger son all through pre-K. There were so many social opportunites, that it was difficult to choose from! Park play dates, science classes at the local museum, field trips organized by our homeschool group, art classes, cub scouts, little league, family get togethers, workshops put on by our homeschool program, science fairs, share fairs, not to mention when we go shopping, dining, etc. My kids went on weekly field trips to local museums, nature preserves, hiking trails, parks, historical landmarks, train trips, trolley trips, mass transit experiences, etc. They had about 30-40 field trips per school year. We were very busy socially.
We were facing financial troubles and my husband was already working two jobs, so I decided I had to go back to work. I put my kids in a local Catholic school, my older son in 8th grade, and my younger son in Kindergarten. (Our finances didn't get much better, there are hidden costs to working, plus the cost of private school!)
The Principal and teachers were amazed by my kids. The comments I got were how respectful they were, how intelligent they were and they were impressed how comfortable my older son was conversing with adults. The principal on many occasions told me how impressed they were with my older son and told me that he will go far in life. This is a boy who was failing school in first grade due to dyslexia, but by the seventh grade he was programming computers and building computers from scratch and writing children's books. Although we knew many kids in homeschool who were doing similar things, not one student in that entire private school knew how to do any of this.
By the end of the school year, my younger son was awarded an academic achievement award. The kindergarten teacher told me this was a big deal in her classroom and that he is really smart. He has dyslexia and ADHD(it runs in my family), he had never been enrolled in preschool, yet he excelled far above the other students. They were also impressed with his knowledge of trains and dinosaurs, his two passions.
They both made friends in school. They both learned from that school, but they were not learning as much as they used to in homeschool.
When my older son started 9th grade, we couldn't afford the Catholic high school, we decided to try out our local public school, this school was in a middle class neighborhood, and supposed to be one of the better public schools. They had received a grant to create a tech academy, and I thought it would be a good program for him. He made a lot of friends, although he couldn't find a friend who was doing any of the stuff he is into. (DIY electronics, programming and building computers). The friends he had were amazed by him, they couldn't believe the things he could do. The tech academy was doing activities way below his skill level and he told me he was worried about being in this school because he felt he wasn't learning anything.
He was there until December, when three boys threw footballs as hard as they could at his back and called him a fag. The vice principal and the teacher did nothing. I pulled him out. He was getting bullied in other ways too, plus while he was maintaining a B average, he wasn't learning anything, and someone actually showed him his drug smoking tools in class. I couldn't get a teacher to email me, to this day 1 out of 7 teachers emailed me. I had to sit outside the vice principals office because he wouldn't return my phone calls or emails. But, he still did nothing.
We are now homeschooling again, this time with a charter school that offers funds for extracurricular classes. My older son still has friends he socializes with, friends that don't pants him, call him a fag, or offer him drugs. Since I pulled him out, he has built two custom computers and fixed six computers. He has actually started his own custom computer building and tech business. He has made friends in our new neighborhood and in his art classes.
My younger son has friends in our neighborhood, Cub scouts and in his art classes.
We also continue to connect with families in our homeschool group and other support groups we belong to.
I have been told how impressive my kids are. They are friendly, out-going, intelligent and creative. They are comfortable socializing with kids of all ages and adults. My older son is exploring his love of art, music and technology while maintaining an A in all his classes. He takes university enrichment classes twice a year and plans to go to an Art Academy to work in computer animation or graphics design.
Oh and by the way, I spend less time with them doing schoolwork now than when they were enrolled in school. Guess why? They are independent learners!